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       "To promote and encourage the 'thread' of unselfish heart and love
        that invisibly connects husbands and wives, parents and children,
                                               and brothers and sisters."
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           From the Editor
           ...............

                It's spring in Virginia Beach, and Kim and I, with
           Tymon, Gracie, Ranin and Tadin, are happily enjoying 82
           degree weather at the beach. Followed by 40 degree
           weather, huddled in our house. That's Virginia Beach!

                This issue of the HTJ should have arrived in your
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                Ah, me, oh my. In between building a burgeoning web
           site and design business (The World Community Network, at
           http://worldcommunity.com) and doing non-profit work, and
           this and that, as the saying goes, I yearn for the day
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                My idea of a vacation is sitting on a tropical beach
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                Until then, I will do my best to publish this little
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                Have a wonderful spring!


                                               Peter F. Brown
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                               TABLE OF CONTENTS



           * From the Editor, Peter F. Brown ......................1


           * Brother and Sister, by Lewis Carroll .................5


           * Making Peace With Children:
             Helping Them Find Their Connection,
             by Sharon Goodman ....................................6


           * Ex-Foster Child Urges Reform of System,
             by Cheryl Wetzstein .................................11


           * Celebrating New Life, Honoring Old,
             by Betsy Mathews Wright .............................13


           * Queen of the Angels, Queen of Saints,
             by Ann Marie Hancock ................................16


           * The Movie Mom's Guide to Movies
             and Videos for Families, by Nell Minow ..............21
             (Review of "The Preacher's Wife",
              "Ghosts of Mississippi")


           * HeartQuestions / Questions & Reflections
             about Marriage, Parenting, Family & Society
             "Commitment as a Husband and a Father",
             by Peter F. Brown ...................................23


           * Maybe I Should Take A Coif Drop,
             by Kim Korman Brown .................................25


           * The HeartThread Resource Guide:
             Resources for Couples, Parents & Families ...........27




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                              Brother and Sister
                             ....................
                                excerpted from
                        "Useful and Instructive Poetry"
                                     1845

                                                    by Lewis Carroll


                "Sister, sister, go to bed!
                Go and rest your weary head."
                Thus the prudent brother said.


                "Do you want a battered hide,
                Or scratches to your face applied?"
                Thus his sister calm replied.


                "Sister, do not raise my wrath.
                I'd make you into mutton broth
                As easily as kill a moth!"


                The sister raised her beaming eye
                And looked on him indignantly
                And sternly answered, "Only try!"


                Off to the cook he quickly ran.
                "Dear Cook, please lend a frying-pan
                To me as quickly as you can."


                "And wherefore should I lend it you?"
                "The reason, Cook, is plain to view.
                I wish to make an Irish stew."


                "What meat is in that stew to go?"
                "My sister'll be the contents!"
                "Oh!"


                Moral: Never stew your sister.


                     ...............................................
                      Lewis Carroll, (Rev. Charles Lutwidge Dodgson)
                        wrote, as we all know, "Alice in Wonderland"
                                      Email: afterlife email not yet
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                          Making Peace With Children:
                      Helping Them Find Their Connection
                     ....................................

                                                   by Sharon Goodman

                Through my diary of school stories, I offer you my
           victories, my humiliating mistakes, and rewards of my
           mistakes. In no way do I have the ultimate correct way.
           We are simply traveling, investigating, pioneering the
           path of the heart.

           Brandt's Story
           **************

                A new student, Brandt, was an angry five year old.
           He often acted out with much aggression, and it was a
           challenge to know how to handle his tantrums. He was so
           strong about what he wanted.

                The water table was his favorite place to be. But
           one day when he eagerly approached it, he saw that little
           Simon was using the very thing he wanted. He wanted it,
           and he wanted it immediately. He didn't know how to wait.
           He didn't know how to ask. He just began to yell. When he
           got no response, he hit Simon over the head. Fortunately,
           Simon was more shocked than hurt. But this situation
           could not be ignored.

                I began to talk to Brandt about his "mistake," but
           he hated hearing about having to do things differently.
           He was enraged and refused to listen. Very quickly he
           became violent. He acted as if no one had ever confronted
           him before.

                I took him to another room and calmly, but firmly,
           explained the situation to him. "You must stay in here
           for now," I said. "But we would love to have you join us
           again when you are in control of yourself." I left.

                His screaming continued for at least 20 minutes. I
           basically ignored him, but every now and then I walked
           through the room. For my benefit, his screams only became
           wilder.

                I went back to the classroom and apologized to the
           other children. "I'm sorry it is so noisy in here, but he
           is just having a tantrum. I hope he'll get over it soon
           so we can all be together again. When he comes back,
           please be sure to let him know you're glad he's back."

                Just then Brandt began to yell, "I'm gonna tell my
           mom! I'm gonna tell my Grandma! I wanna go home -- now!"


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                As the teacher, I momentarily felt fear. "If he
           tells his mom, what might she think?" I wondered. But I
           brushed it aside. If I really cared about the future of
           this kid, I had go the distance. So I said, "Brandt, here
           are the choices. You can calm yourself and join us in the
           other room, or you can stay in here by yourself having a
           temper tantrum, which isn't a good choice for a wonderful
           boy like you."

                His screaming stopped momentarily as he took another
           breath. I seized the moment. "Great," I said. "You
           stopped." I quickly took him by the hand and brought him
           to the classroom where everyone was busy with art
           projects.

                The children stopped what they were doing. "Hi,
           Brandt, glad you're back," said three year old Joshua.
           Brandt folded his arms stubbornly as if to say, "I'm
           here, but I'm not going to play."

                I approached him, but it was obvious he was going to
           object. Then, four year old Clairin came to the rescue.
           She said, "Brandt, the teacher is only trying to help you
           grow." That's what I tell them a lot.

                "Yeah," said three year old Korie. "We want you to
           play with us."

                With hands still crossed, Brandt announced, "I'm
           just going to stand here. I'm not going to play."

                "That's fine, Brandt," I said. "That's your choice.
           You may just stand there if you want to. I'm just sorry
           you'll miss the fun." I walked away and busied myself
           with the other children.

                Then, Simon at the water table invited him over. "Do
           you want one of the animals for the water table?" I
           pretended not to notice. Brandt looked around the room
           and noticed the others were going about their business.

                "Okay, I decided to play," he said softly.

           Comment:
           ********

                The other children were clear about the standard
           which they had been taught; therefore their hearts could
           be open toward him. They could operate freely with their
           original minds showing. Compassionate understanding and
           forgiveness, the heart of "wanting to be together", won.
           Belonging was regained.




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           Kristin's Story
           ***************

                Kristin was an artistic four year old child. She
           worked, quiet and absorbed, usually choosing the art room
           during her free times. Her good friend was Clairin,
           different in personality. Clairin loved to perform, sing
           and dance. Most often you'd find her in the music area.
           Then one day a terrible outbreak occurred. I heard
           wailing from the two girls. Clairin was holding her head
           saying that Kristin had hit her over the head. I saw
           Kristin hiding in a corner sobbing.

                It would be easy at this point to simply call
           Kristin the offender, make judgment, and call a time out.
           Instead I saw this as a "broken" moment in their
           relationship. Both girls were victims, both girls' hearts
           were suffering. So both were called. Kristin came from
           her "hiding corner" very angry. Clairin, still in tears,
           couldn't understand why she had been hit.

                I had remembered seeing Kristin working on a very
           ornate, paper necklace for most of her time in the art
           room. I noticed it was ripped apart and on the floor. I
           learned that Kristin came to the music room to show
           Clairin her new necklace. Clairin, involved in her
           whirling and twirling, caught her hand in it and ripped
           it from Kristin's neck. Kristin, not knowing what else to
           do, hit Clairin over the head. Both were miserable.

                I called them together and explained that both their
           hearts were hurting now. I explained what had happened.
           (Sometimes you can ask one child to explain to the other
           child what happened that they didn't like. In this
           circumstance, I was the spokesman for both because they
           were both so upset.)

                I helped Clairin understand the heart of Kristin who
           had worked so hard all morning to make the necklace, and
           how in one second it was broken. I helped Kristin to
           understand that she hurt her friend's head by hitting her
           because she didn't know what else to do, but even more
           so, she hurt her friend's heart.

                Their little original minds [consciences] took over
           and they hugged each other -- their heart connection
           regained. Together they ran for the tape. As we were
           taping it, I explained that their friendship was even
           more valuable than the beautiful, paper necklace. At the
           end of the day I noticed that Clairin wore a very
           beautiful taped necklace home. Kristin had given it to
           her.




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           Christine's Story
           *****************

                It was Christine's first day of school. I had
           observed her before to be a bright, strong-willed, four
           year old girl. As she entered the school door, I prepared
           to give her our customary handshake greeting. "Good
           morning, Christine. We've been waiting to see you. Come
           on in!" But she looked at me unconvinced, withdrew her
           hand and threw it behind her back.

                Several thoughts flooded my brain. 1. She's shy so
           I'd better not push it until she knows me better. 2. I
           came on too strong; I'll back off. 3. She's stubborn and
           wants things on her terms.

                I judged by the look on her face, (jaw set like a
           muppet character!), and chose '3'.

                So I took the risk. "Christine," I said, very slowly
           reaching around her back to take her hand, "I know that
           you are a very friendly person but if you pull your hand
           behind your back like that, it would be an UNFRIENDLY
           thing to do. So, good morning, friend," I said, as I held
           her hand gently between my two hands. Christine remained
           skeptical. Her face didn't change, (still a straight-
           mouthed, muppet face) but she walked slowly into the
           school room thinking about what had just happened to her.
           I knew that there would be another confrontation sometime
           down the road.

                To my surprise it came only minutes later as the
           group gathered for a music lesson. The two, three, and
           four year olds all knew the standard preparations for the
           teacher's arrival. They were to sit in the circle, cross
           their legs Indian style so as not to disturb anyone, and
           be quiet. Christine came to the circle but wasn't about
           to conform to any rules just yet. She sat down but stuck
           her feet out as far as they could point. The students
           were compassionate and kind. "Christine, here's how
           you're supposed to cross your legs for the lesson."
           Christine remained the same, not about to change; feet
           still sticking out straight as a rod. Meanwhile all the
           children became more eager to show her how to do it and I
           pretended not to notice. I arrived from around the corner
           quickly. "Okay, everybody, let's begin. But --"
           (pretending to see Christine's legs for the first time)
           "Uh oh, Christine. Maybe you didn't know but when you
           prepare for the teacher, always cross your legs. That
           way, your legs won't disturb anyone around you and you
           can concentrate better."

                I thought if I first tried to fix the situation in a
           light, easy way, I could avoid a tug of will. But she was
           clearly engaged for battle -- mouth and all -- and

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           refused to change. If I chose to ignore this now I would
           have a problem. Ten little eyes carefully watched to see
           what I was going to do about this. If I did nothing, I
           would disappoint them. I could also be in big trouble
           because it would mean that what I say has no meaning, and
           then all the other rules would be fair game. So I
           thought, "I've GOT to do SOMETHING!" I slowly took both
           her hands again. (That had worked before and had just the
           right drama for the effect. So I tried it again.) I led
           Christine just far enough around the corner to be unseen.
           Everybody was absolutely silent wondering what was about
           to happen.

                I sat down eye level to Christine and held both her
           hands in mine. I said, "Christine, I'm going to tell you
           something really important. Your body and your face are
           saying no to me and I don't want you to say no to me, as
           your teacher, and I also don't want you saying no to your
           mom and dad. And now I'm going to tell you why. We love
           you and we are trying to help you grow. And when you say
           no, you are saying no to growing and that would be very
           sad. We love you too much for you not to grow up into a
           beautiful person. Now, Christine, I'm going to stay here
           for a few minutes and I want you to go out to the circle,
           sit down, and do the right thing." She left and after a
           short pause, I went out to see what she had chosen to do.

                (I was already thinking about what might be a good
           natural consequence if she chose to say no.) But I
           arrived to find her legs neatly crossed. To my bigger
           surprise, she had a big smile on her face! No words
           needed to be exchanged. The lesson promptly began.
           Everyone was happy. But the best part came later when her
           mother called that night to tell me that Christine had
           decided what she wanted to be when she grew up -- a
           teacher!

                Not all scenarios work out so swiftly or completely.
           Throughout this particular day I felt I was taking a
           risk. Perhaps I could have read the situation wrong. I'm
           always looking for clues from within the child that tell
           me if I am right or wrong. But I work on three premises:
           1. God is my partner and will help me. 2. If I make a
           mistake, but it's out of the right heart, I can always
           apologize to the child. 3. If I can convince the child
           that I live to help them grow -- then I am met with
           little resistance as they become self-motivated to do the
           right thing. These three elements are constant guidelines
           for both parents and teachers. They can take us all
           gladly along the path of mutual heart growth with our
           children.
                ....................................................
                 Mrs. Goodman is the director and primary teacher of
                  Happy Hearts Day School in Avondale, Pennsylvania.
                          Email her care/of kimbrown@futurerealm.com

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                    Ex-Foster Child Urges Reform of System
                   ........................................

                                                  by Cheryl Wetztein

                She doesn't know her age, where she came from or who
           her parents were. Friends guess that she's Chinese,
           Latina, Polish, Norwegian, Hawaiian or Korean.

                But Connie Craig, a former foster child and
           co-founder of an organization dedicated to reforming the
           foster-care system, takes such memory holes in stride.

                "Not having those types of reference points makes me
           realize they are nowhere near as important as knowing
           that someone loves you and that there's a family that
           will always be there for you," says Miss Craig, who was
           adopted by her California family when she was around
           eight years old.

                Miss Craig recently came to Washington to receive
           the first annual $25,000 Salvatori Prize for American
           Citizenship from the Heritage Foundation. The prize was
           donated to the group she founded in 1993, the Institute
           for Children in Cambridge, Massachusetts.

                The institute's goal is to see widespread reform of
           the $14 billion-a-year, foster-care system and the
           adoption of all 50,000 foster care children who are now
           free for adoption.

                More than anything, children want to have
           "stability, a family that will last longer than a few
           months, a last name," Miss Craig said in a widely
           reprinted article she wrote last summer, titled "What I
           Need Is a Mom."

                Child-welfare experts estimate that there are about
           500,000 children in the foster-care system.

                About 50,000 children have been legally freed for
           adoption, but most have "special needs" - they are school
           age, part of a sibling group that must be adopted
           together, a racial or ethnic minority, or have physical,
           emotional or developmental problems.

                Few families want to adopt such children, the
           experts say. According to the National Council for
           Adoption, about 15,000 of the 50,000 adoptions each year
           involve "special needs" children.

                Miss Craig, whose foster family has cared for 110
           foster children in the last 40 years and who has adopted
           or assumed guardianship for nine of those children,

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           insists that there are no "unadoptable children" and that
           the system actually works to discourage families from
           adopting these children.

                "Unadoptable, in essence, means unlovable and that's
           just not true," says Miss Craig, noting that private
           adoption agencies have for years found families for all
           types of children and there are people waiting to adopt
           children with Down Syndrome, AIDS and other "special
           needs."

                The foster-care system's bigger problems are the way
           its funds are spent and its inherent bias against
           adoption, especially transracial adoption, she says.

                Currently, more than $14 billion a year goes to
           foster parents, state child-welfare agencies and a vast
           array of service providers, including "family
           preservation" programs that work to keep troubled
           families intact.

                Despite these efforts, the foster care system is
           grossly overburdened - overworked, underpaid, demoralized
           social workers are forced to make Solomon-like decisions
           without proper education or training, child-welfare
           experts say. As a result, scandalous mistakes are made
           and almost half the country's foster care systems are
           under court supervision.

                Miss Craig, a Harvard graduate, argues that states
           should redirect their resources to move children out of
           foster care and into permanent homes by:

                - Giving biological parents no more than one year to
           prove their fitness to have custody of their children or
           lose parental rights.

                - Requiring putative fathers to formalize paternity
           within 30 days or lose their right to contest a child's
           adoption.

                - Requiring foster parents to meet adoptive-parent
           standards so they can adopt a child if they wish. "No
           more foster parents on welfare", Miss Craig asserts.

                Once a child is legally free for adoption, the state
           should be given 30 days to find a family for that child.
           If the state can't find a family, the child's case should
           be contracted out to a private agency that is financially
           motivated to find an adoptive family.

                Michigan tried such a plan and increased the
           adoption of black children by 121 percent, Miss Craig



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           says. In Massachusetts, foster-child adoptions increased
           by 47 percent after state agencies stepped up recruitment
           efforts.

                Congress is helping by passing a bill allowing a
           $5,000 tax credit for adoption expenses and easing
           barriers to transracial adoptions.

                But in the end, Miss Craig says, the bottom line is
           what a 10 year old foster-care boy once told her: "What I
           need is a Mom."

                             .......................................
                                        Reprinted by permission from
                                      The Washington Times (5-28-96)
                              Cheryl Wetzstein is a reporter for the
                                 Washington Times, in Washington, DC
                                           Email: dwetzstein@aol.com


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                      Celebrating New Life, Honoring Old
                     ....................................

                                             by Betsy Mathews Wright

                Today I hold a new life in my arms, giving thanks to
           the Lord for providing this miracle.

                I love being a midlife mommy! While I certainly
           thanked God and rejoiced when my two teen-agers were born
           years ago, I know for sure that I didn't have a clue then
           as to what this mommy gig was all about.

                Now, having been through the trials and tribulations
           of parenthood for 16 years, I know what I'm getting into.
           I know it will not be easy. I know I will not always like
           the child I now hold. (Love this child: always. Like this
           child: not always.) I know how much patience, money and
           sheer hard work it's going to take to raise this kid.

                I also know all the joy this endeavor called
           parenthood will bring. And because I know this is my last
           time around the parenting block, I find myself seeing
           things with different eyes. When you're young, you think
           you've got all the time in the world and that you'll see
           everything more than once.

                By the time you reach midlife, you realize that most
           of the precious, really good things are rare,
           one-of-a-kind treats.

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                These are the jewels of my current days: Watching
           Jordannah marvel at a butterfly. Smelling the top of my
           newborn's head. Listening to the laughter of my teen-age
           children as they drive off to school together.

                Money purchased none of these delights. They were
           provided by God and love. I appreciate that now more than
           ever.

                Did I come to such a place on my own? No, I've been
           brought to this place by God, by my parents, by my family
           and friends.

                Looking back, however, I realize that one of the
           most influential persons in my life is the woman my
           husband calls The Queen Bee. It is this woman who first
           taught my mother, who then taught me, about the true
           treasures of life.

                This woman is my grandma, Mama Charles.

                Married at 15, Mama Charles had my mother, her
           firstborn, when she was just 17 years old. Three more
           children and 17 years later, the love of her life, her
           husband Henry Elliott, died in a tragic shooting
           accident.

                "I thought I was puny before Henry died," said my
           grandma recently. "I guess I just didn't know then how
           much strength the Lord could give me."

                A widow at 34, Mama Charles went to work to support
           her brood of four. A few years later she remarried, but
           the fellow had severe troubles and divorce became the
           only way my grandma could escape the abuse.

                At 42, with two strong-willed teen-agers at home and
           a rocky marriage, the unthinkable happened to my grandma.
           She discovered she was pregnant. At the time, it seemed
           like the worst thing in the world. My grandma's faith -
           always strong - faltered.

                "That was the only time in my life that I felt that
           the Lord had turned his back on me," she said. "and yet
           he was really working a miracle in my life and I just
           didn't know it."

                With all her strength, my grandma turned once more
           to God and prayed through her crisis. She even went to
           the altar of her church, rededicating her life to Jesus.
           She asked God to forgive her for originally not wanting
           the child and prayed God would bless the child and give
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                God did just that and in the process, Mama Charles
           got the miracle of her lifetime. At 42, she became a
           midlife mommy to Widdie, a beautiful brown-eyed boy.
           Widdie has been a blessing to my grandma since the moment
           of his birth. Now grown to manhood, he's the child my
           grandma says, "never gave me a minute's worry."

                Today, he and his wife and two daughters live and
           work near my grandma. Widdie - my grandma's miracle -
           continues to bring joy to his family and friends with his
           kind ways and his wry sense of humor.

                When I had Jordannah 18 months ago, Mama Charles
           called to congratulate me.

                "I only pray," she said, "that this child brings you
           as much pleasure and happiness that Widdie has brought
           me."

                Like Mama Charles, I cherish my older children, the
           children of my youth. And like Mama Charles, I have no
           favorites. I could never love Jordannah or this new baby
           any more than I love Luke and Caroline.

                It's just that being a midlife mommy has made me
           more aware of that love. It has made me more awestruck by
           God's gift to each of us: individuality. Having Jordannah
           and Jonathan hasn't diminished my love for Luke and
           Caroline. It has only enriched that love.

                Today, I thank my grandma - Katherine Whitehurst
           Charles - for helping me grow both emotionally and
           spiritually. Often when I've felt the Lord had turned his
           back on me, I've looked to Mama Charles' life and found
           the strength to seek God just one more time.

                "When I look back and see all I've been through,"
           said my grandma recently,"I still think God has been
           something wonderful to me...I guess I've said it a
           million times: It's a great life if you don't weaken."

                With God by her side, my grandma has kept her faith
           strong.

                Thank you, Mama Charles, for letting God's strength
           shine through you.

                            ........................................
                                        Reprinted by permission from
                             Ms. Wright's column, "Issues of Faith",
                               The Virginian-Pilot, November 9, 1996


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                              Queen of the Angels
                                Queen of Saints
                             .....................

                                                by Ann Marie Hancock

                It was hard for me to comprehend that angel voices
           come from within where love is cherished above all else
           and where we do not think. I have been a former debater
           and hard nose reporter for twenty-five years. I have been
           on the cover of magazines with the caption, "The Lady
           Packs a Punch."

                I had always thought, "Truth existed in a far away
           place." I now know that God hid all the secrets inside us
           because He knew it was the last place we would look. I
           also realize that truth is not dogma that the mind can
           comprehend when the heart strays from its home.

                My spiritual journey has taken me to many places. I
           have been to the pyramids in Cairo, Egypt and to the
           Coptic Church where the Blessed Mother Mary appeared to
           thousands of Muslims. I have climbed Machu Picchu. I
           spent three weeks studying the Mayan ruins on the Yucatan
           Peninsula and took an extended journey into the jungles
           of Bonapek.

                I found that special place inside me in a remote
           Communist village in Medjugorje, Yugoslavia in 1982. The
           Blessed Mother had been appearing to six children in a
           small village of 400 families comprised of Croatians,
           Moslems, Jews, Montenegrans and Macedonians. I thought
           even then that if Our Lord could create a small oasis of
           peace there that it could be done anywhere. I was amazed
           to see that people open their homes seven days a week to
           people from all over the world. They never complain, and
           their faces register great joy. These same people don't
           even lock their doors, and the village has been described
           as impoverished . . . yet they had found clouds of love
           wrapped around a mountain called Krizevak. I had watched
           a terminally ill child carried up the rocky cliffs. She
           was carried by a Dutchman, Frenchman, an Italian, and
           there was no language barrier. The universal language was
           love, and it needed no interpreter.

                I was privileged to go into the room of apparitions
           while the Blessed Mother was appearing to these (then)
           six children. I experienced pink lights in my rosary
           beads. I heard Mary's voice. My rosary beads turned from
           a silver color to a gold color. I saw the cross spin at
           Krizevak and I was witness to the miracle of the sun.
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           people from all over the world come together in love and
           prayer. There was no social, political or religious
           labeling.

                The beautiful Queen of the Angels. . . the one I
           call the Blessed Virgin Mary was beaming silent truth,
           love and hope into the depths of each heart. Heaven spoke
           to me through her and through all the people there. I was
           consoled, rejuvenated and brought to my knees with
           emotion and love.

                I wanted to bring it home . . . take it everywhere
           ... to everyone. I wanted each to experience that slice
           of paradise that reverberates in love within each of us.

                I was the first lay person to write about
           Medjugorje. I wanted a book that belonged to everyone.
           Catholic comes from the Greek meaning "universal." We are
           all God's children. There are no exceptions. Our Lady has
           said at Medjugorje, "God didn't divide you; you divided
           yourselves." I know this as truth.

                I returned home to Richmond, Virginia with a full
           heart. On the third day home, I was awakened in the night
           by a beautiful Lady. She was standing at the foot of my
           bed. She was the Blessed Mother Mary. She didn't speak a
           word, but the love that I felt and the sense of things to
           come was incomprehensible. I was totally enveloped in
           silent truth, totally caressed to the depths of my soul.

                I wrote "Be a Light, Miracles at Medjugorje." The
           book poured through me. I thought it would be my last.
           Once we walk through the window of Love, our work just
           begins. It has been an unending journey which has taken
           me to network television and the taping of NBC's "Other
           Side", "Rolanda", "The Bertrice Berry Show" and "Ancient
           Prophecy," "Inside Edition" and others. Jesus in His Love
           and Mercy is using the communication skills for Him and
           His Mother. His master plan for me continues to unfold
           like an intricately woven tapestry. Our Lady continues to
           whisper in my ear, reinforcing me and my mission for Her
           Son. "Take My Love. Love is on their lips. Take it to
           their hearts."

                I continue to be humbled by the magnitude of Their
           love. It was on the Feast of the Immaculate Conception,
           December 8th, in Conyers, Georgia that I knew I was to
           write again. I was praying with several people of mixed
           faiths. It had been sleeting in the morning. The sky
           suddenly turned golden. I turned golden.. my hair, my
           eyelashes, the people around me.. everything was gold. A
           blind couple witnessed this. A large heart formed in the
           sky, and there a figure of a woman started to form. I
           took three pictures. The Blessed Mother Mary came out on
           my film. I wept like a child. What did it mean? I smelled

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           a strong floral scent of roses which has remained with me
           for two years. It remains in my home.

                Signs and wonders have their place. They get one's
           attention and then with the grace of God, these signs
           take us into the depths of our hearts to re-examine and
           re-evaluate one's direction. The unlimited potential of
           Heaven caused me to shake and wonder; what is it all
           about? What am I to do? The visionary, Nancy Fowler, in
           Georgia had seen gold light pouring from my heart. What
           did it mean? The old debater in me was trying once again
           to figure it all out. I was pathetic!

                My heart had its answer in one mystical effortless
           moment on February 14, 1992. I'd returned from Georgia
           where Mother Mary was appearing as "Our Loving Mother."
           My home was filled with the scent of roses . . . inside
           and out. I ran through the house trying once again to
           "figure it out." My family joined me in this effort. The
           Blessed Mother must have been silently smiling, maybe
           giggling at all of us.

                It was later that night that she appeared to me for
           the second time. It was different. She showed me a book
           ... a title ... a cover. It was as if I were watching a
           movie. The book is "Wake Up America, Take My Hand. Take
           My Heart." Our Lady is on the cover. The proceeds go to
           my love and Hers ... terminally ill children. It made
           sense. What does our precious Lord say, but "Suffer the
           little ones unto me." Unless you be like children you
           shall not enter into the kingdom.

                Of course! Children are the honest, open, recept-
           acles of love. Mary brings to Jesus and Jesus loves all
           His children.

                However, my own special love has always been
           children, particularly sick children. Tom, my husband of
           twenty-six years, and I lost a little girl to a lung
           disease many years ago. Three years ago we were in danger
           of losing our oldest, Cori, to another physical disorder.
           I was told after Cori was born not to attempt having any
           more children since I had several challenging health
           problems.

                After losing our precious Stacy, I became pregnant
           in 1975. I was three months pregnant when I knew "Faith"
           would be a she. She is now a beautiful, loving, healthy
           girl at the University of South Carolina. She too loves
           and works with children.

                God has blessed Tom and me with three healthy
           wonderful offspring. I had spent several months in bed
           with each pregnancy. Jesus rewarded my belief in Him and
           commitment to His children.

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                I wrote "Wake Up America" for our Lady. She sent me
           bouquets of roses each day I wrote for Her and Her Son.
           It is and remains Her book. I am blessed, graced and
           privileged to work in Her service for Her Son. Remember,
           Our Loving Mother brings everyone to Jesus, not to
           Herself. She is the Mother, the Universal Mother to all
           of us. As a Catholic, I do not worship or adore Mary. I
           love her with my heart and soul as the Mother of the
           Savior. She is the warm, nurturing, compassionate heart
           of every home. Who could Jesus love more than that "woman
           bathed in the sun" (Revelations) who walked the sorrowful
           passion with him?

                I referenced earlier that my husband and I almost
           lost another child two years ago. I was at that time
           traveling the world teaching love and faith. I know, as
           never before, that we teach best what we need to learn
           most. . . love and faith.

                I was almost in a state of total despair at this
           crisis in my own home. I had lost one child. Why would
           our Lord take another from me? I was back in my
           left-brain "figure it out" mode and suffering beyond my
           own comprehension.

                I was at the lowest point when Our Lady appeared to
           me a third time. She was holding a child, but the child
           was not Jesus, but Cori. In an instant I knew the
           obvious. "Without faith we are alone." I knew as never
           before, that when we give ourselves or our children, or
           our problems, to Jesus and His loving Mother that they
           accept them with love. I knew in one precious moment that
           every prayer is heard, not one prayer goes unanswered!
           When I gave Cori to Jesus and to Mary, They were holding
           her in Their arms. I knew then that Their love and mercy
           is unfathomable. Not even the best of human relationships
           can shadow their love.

                Just when I thought the Lord and His sweet Mom were
           finished with me, I was brought to my knees with another
           experience. On May 15, 1993, there was a large burst of
           light in a room in Georgia and the visionary, Nancy
           Fowler, said, "Jesus is giving you an extraordinary gift
           of healing." My body was on fire. Two days later I was
           asked to pray with a little boy, who was my son's age.
           Danny was ten years old and had experienced multiple
           strokes. The day after I prayed with him, he was at
           Shoney's Restaurant blowing up a green balloon. That
           summer he was able to attend camp for the first time with
           children his own age. Jesus is so awesome!

                One week went by and a thirty-year-old psychologist
           presented herself at my home. Robin Hickey had multiple
           sclerosis and cerebral palsy. She has been healed of
           these diseases and she has grown an inch. You may have

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           seen her on network television sharing her experience.
           Another woman, Pat Luth of Lynchburg, Virginia was healed
           of hepatitis C. Several have been healed of cancer.

                I can't explain the extraordinary heat in my body. I
           don't try. I know that I am just a broom for Jesus. My
           prayer is that when He is finished with me, He will
           lovingly put me back in the closet. My prayer is that He
           keep me humble for Him.

                I now have an office at Mary Mother of the Church
           Abbey, in Richmond, Virginia. I have a holy spiritual
           director -- the Abbot Benedict McDermott of the Order of
           Saint Benedict. The people come from all over the world
           including places like Chile, Bolivia and Nigeria.

                The Blessed Mother continues to speak to me. I see
           Her, and I see Jesus. I see angels and I see saints. I've
           stopped trying to figure it out. My prayer is "Jesus, I
           trust in You." I live in a special place now, in the
           sunshine of love. I choose only to look in His Light. I
           choose only to serve Him better and to take His love to
           as many as possible and pray that I will have been a life
           that mattered for Him.

                I know as never before that no one need remain in
           darkness except by his or her own choice. I know that if
           we are separate, it is because we choose not to love. She
           (Mary) told me so.

                Love is our divine inheritance. I invite each to
           Take His Heart; Take His Hand; Take Her heart; Take Her
           Hand.

                My journey reminds me of a story in the "Wizard of
           OZ," when Dorothy finally realized she never needed to
           leave Kansas. We need only journey into our own hearts to
           find home.

                May Jesus and Mary hold you all in Their arms. I
           will carry you all in my heart and in my prayers! May we
           . . each of us. . . travel in the mystical depths of love
           and truth that shine and surround us everyday in the
           silence of our hearts.
                             .......................................
                                       Ms. Hancock can be reached at
                                     804 784-2214 or write to her at
                                    Mary Mother of the Church Abbey,
                               12617 River Road, Richmond, VA 23233.
                               All proceeds from Wake Up America are
                              contributed to Make A Wish Foundation.
                                        Reprinted by permission from
                                   ANGEL TIMES Magazine, Atlanta, GA
                            1-800-36-ANGEL - angelmag@mindspring.com
                                           http://www.angeltimes.com

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                           The Movie Mom's Guide to
                           Family Movies and Videos
                          ..........................

                                                       by Nell Minow

                Reviews for parents of the best of current films and
           old movies available on video and cable, by Nell Minow,
           author, film critic, and mother. Reviews will be updated
           each week with recommendations and replies to questions
           about movies on special topics, suitability of particular
           movies for children, and movie trivia--try to stump me!
           I'd also love your suggestions for a new book on movies
           for families. The best kids' comments I receive will be
           published. The Movie Mom (TM)


           For Kids
           ********

           The Preacher's Wife
           .....................

           Penny Marshall, PG, 8 and up

                Whitney Houston's voice and Denzel Washington's
           subtle and endearing performance are the highlights of
           this uneven remake of a 1947 Cary Grant movie about an
           angel sent to help a beleagered clergyman (Courtney
           Vance). Many kids will find it hard to get interested in
           the story, about a minister's efforts to keep his
           community together; help one boy who is wrongly accused
           of a crime and another who needs a foster home; and
           reconnect with his wife and child. Washington is truly
           heavenly as the angel, overjoyed at a chance to return to
           earth. Houston's acting range is limited, but she glows
           nicely when seen by Washington's appreciative eyes; her
           genuine pleasure in returning to her roots (her mother is
           gospel singer Cissy Houston) is evident, and her songs
           are frequent enough to keep the plot from sagging too
           badly. And the movie gives us a most welcome view of a
           middle-class black community working and worshiping
           together.


           For Teens
           *********

           Ghosts of Mississippi
           .....................

           Rob Reiner (1996) Rated PG-13 for language
           (some profanity and some racist epithets)
           and one violent shooting, recommended for 12 and up

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                This movie tells the true story of the trial and
           conviction of Byron de la Beckwith (James Woods) for the
           murder of civil rights leader Medgar Evers, thirty years
           after it happened. Evers was murdered in front of his
           home in 1963. Beckwith was tried twice for the crime, by
           two all-white juries, both ending in mistrials. The case
           was dormant for thirty years, while Evers' widow (Whoopi
           Goldberg) tried to persuade local authorities to
           prosecute him again. Finally, assistant district attorney
           Bobby DeLaughter (Alec Baldwin) reopened the case,
           despite the hostility from much of the community, and
           Beckwith was convicted.

                Like all major feature films that focus on the civil
           rights era, this one finds a way to make the story
           revolve around the whites. While DeLaughter's persistence
           and integrity are laudable, one cannot help thinking that
           the very fact that he is the hero says more about the
           state of race relations in this country than the
           long-overdue conviction of a racist murderer.

                Even with some weaknesses, however, this is an
           important film for today's teens of all races to watch
           with their families. It is filled with telling details,
           from the reactions of DeLaughter's family (his wife
           leaves him, though the decision to pursue the case is
           clearly only the most recent of a series of disputes; his
           mother says she preferred the days of segregation) to the
           restroom door that swings shut behind DeLaughter in the
           courthouse showing a carved sign that once read "white
           men." And the movie recognizes the complexity of the
           problems it depicts, as DeLaughter must deal with his own
           family's legacy of racism.

                Parents should use this film as a starting point for
           a discussion of the civil rights era and the questions
           and injustices that continue to haunt us.

           NOTE: Evers' son, Darryl plays himself, and other family
           members appear as well.

                     ...............................................
                             The Movie Mom's Guide is on the web at:
                     http://pages.prodigy.com/moviemom/moviemom.html
                            "Movie Mom" is a trademark of Nell Minow
                                    All material (C) 1997 Nell Minow
                                                Email: nellm@aol.com



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                              - HeartQuestions -
                         Questions & Reflections about
                     Marriage, Parenting, Family & Society
                    ---------------------------------------

                     Commitment as a Husband and a Father
                    ......................................

                                                   by Peter F. Brown

           DEAR PETER:

                I'm single and my girlfriend is divorced with three
           children. I'm confused, as she probably can't give me a
           child, but I really love her. Should I continue my
           relationship and become husband and wife? Or should we
           not see each other, and let our relationship die?

           Larry


           DEAR LARRY:

                What is true love, after all? Since you say that you
           really love her, I have to assume that you want to bring
           her joy, and also want to care for her children, whom she
           undoubtedly loves very much. Her children must also need
           a loving father to take care of them. Is having your own
           physical children more important than the unselfish love
           that you hopefully feel for her and her children? There's
           no question about it -- marry her, and care for her with
           all your heart. Raise her children as your own, and build
           a family based on selfless commitment.


           DEAR PETER:

                I am a 38 year old Hispanic married man, father of
           two beautiful girls (5 and 8 years old.) My marriage has
           been very difficult since the beginning and we were
           married 12 years ago. My wife is mean sometimes even with
           the kids. I think she has little or no respect for me.
           Sometime she behaves lovely but when I disagree with her
           she becomes angry and talks to me in a very unpleasant
           voice. Her face, voice and expression change completely
           and she starts using nasty vocabulary. She even gets
           violent and starts to hit me, at the beginning I refused
           to hit her back but sometimes I can't control myself. I
           responded and I hit her back on several occasions.

                We both work and she demands a lot from me, she
           doesn't take care of the house, complaining she works
           very hard or doesn't have time. I do most of the cooking,
           the cleaning inside and outside the house, and still it

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           is not enough for her. I don't believe in divorce and I
           don't want to leave the kids, that's probably the reason
           why I stay. But things get very tough. I can't explain
           all the details here, but I hope you would give some
           advice on how to handle this kind of situation. Maybe you
           can give my wife some kind of advice. I appreciate your
           help. Thank you very much.

           Angel


           DEAR ANGEL:

                You have a difficult cross to bear -- my heart goes
           out to you! It is always hard when the other spouse
           doesn't respond, or doesn't accept responsibility for
           creating a harmonious relationship. It would seem that
           with the heart that you've expressed, your two girls
           really need you as their father, to love them, and give
           them stability of heart. Stay for their sake, and stay
           for your wife's sake as well. It's similar to being a
           rock in the ocean. With the waves breaking all around,
           and the storm beating against the rock, you, as the rock,
           have the opportunity to save your family from drowning.
           They'll cling to you as their savior and their
           "heartistic" doctor. What will happen to the hearts of
           your daughters if you left? It's unthinkable.

                Fighting with your wife, and responding in anger, to
           the degree of hitting her back, will create serious
           damage to the heartistic atmosphere in your family, your
           own heart and spirit, and the hearts of your children.
           Granted, you have a very difficult situation. An
           aggressively loving approach, combined with heartistic
           education, may help your wife understand the value of
           harmony and unselfish love. Praying for your wife, and
           praying to gain more strength to love her, is something
           that you may wish to consider.

                I recommend that you both attend some type of
           marriage program, where you'll have a chance to really
           communicate with each other, and where she'll have a
           chance to learn new methods of relating with you and the
           children. It's difficult to progress, sometimes, without
           real, solid education of heart. My best wishes to your
           family.
            ........................................................
                           Peter F. Brown is the author of the book,
                           "Striving for Parental Love" and lives in
                      Virginia Beach, VA with his wife Kim and their
                   four children, Tymon, Thea Grace, Ranin and Tadin
                          HeartQuestions is published as a column on
                                   The HeartThread Resource Page at:
                                            "http://futurerealm.com"
                                   Email: peterbrown@futurerealm.com

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                        Maybe I Should Take A Coif Drop
                       .................................

                                                 by Kim Korman Brown

                I went to a "swanky" haircutting place in April of
           1991, and unintentionally got my hair cut into the shape
           of a french poodle's head. Of course, I didn't know it
           was going to turn out like that. I thought it was going
           to be very glamorous and becoming.

                When I came home my husband said, "You look like an
           old lady. Why don't you dye it blue?"

                I have never cut my hair since, (except for having
           the ends trimmed.) I was standing in front of the
           bathroom mirror today, trying to braid my hair (which I
           have never figured out how to do.) My arms got tired and
           I went and sat down across from my husband in our living
           room. As he was speaking to me I pulled my hair back and
           put a barrette in it.

                "Unique style," Peter said. "You look like Bram
           Stoker's Dracula -- or Leslie Nielson in "Dracula, Dead
           and Loving It"".

                "Huh?"

                "You've got two poofy things like Mickey Mouse's
           ears up there."

                I took the barrette out and let my hair fall loose.
           I once saw the movie,"Sullivan's Travels", with Veronica
           Lake. She had long, liquid blond hair, parted on the
           side, shiny like a Breck girl. It rippled to her
           shoulders and didn't move. She gave Joel McRae sidelong
           glances, peeking out from behind the luxuriant, blond
           waterfall. Bewitching and cool. One wondered if she could
           turn her head. Whenever I let my hair loose, it's the
           "Cousin It" effect, all the way. If I sit still it stays
           put. If I move, it's in my face.

                Most of my life, glamour has been a foreign port.
           I'm a graduate of the Granola Eating, Armpit Hair Growers
           of America, 1973. I wanted to be a natural woman.
           Plucking my eyebrows, wearing pantyhose and putting on
           makeup was not an expression of freedom! Holy epilady, I
           had razor-free legs. I was "a child of God, walking along
           the road, going to Yasgur's farm to camp out on the land
           and set my soul free", woman.

                Then around 1979 I took a job in a mall during the
           Christmas season. I decided to take the plunge and go to
           a makeup counter at a large department store for a free

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           makeover. The girl behind the counter was tall, thin,
           blonde, and chic. I timidly sat down on the little stool.

                "I don't usually wear make-up, and I thought it
           would be a good idea if I learned how. Hee hee. I'm only
           24, hee hee. I wondered if you could do my face and give
           me an idea of how it would look. Hee hee. Gulp. I'm
           actually quite nervous, I've never done this before. Hee
           hee. Not too much, please, just a little bit, I'm not
           used to the way it looks. Hee hee. Gulp. Thanks."

                I sat patiently on the stool as the girl cleaned my
           face with cotton balls, wiped it with solutions, rubbed
           it and sponged it with all kinds of cool, dabbing
           sensations. "Oh, this is beautiful," she said. "You're
           going to love this." She oohed and aahed a few more times
           and then swung the makeup mirror toward me so I could
           look. "Gee, thanks." I said. The first word that came to
           mind was "ghoul". I had on black eyeliner, heavy purple
           eyeshadow and mascara, and dark red lip-liner out lining
           dark red lips. My look went from 'granola' to 'shameless
           hussy'.

                I went to the ladies room and wiped most of it off.

                When I heard the words, "You're going to love
           this!", I knew it was time to start worrying. In the
           eighth grade, a lady I sometimes baby-sat for offered to
           do my hair. She kept saying, "You're going to love this.
           You're going to love this!" I smiled dumbly at her. When
           she finished setting my hair and combing and coifing it,
           she turned me toward the mirror, smiled breathlessly, and
           said "Ta Da!" I looked in the mirror and saw a french
           poodle's head. Arf.

                             .......................................
                             Kim Korman Brown is a writer and a Mom,
                                  living in Virginia Beach, Virginia
                                     Email: kimbrown@futurerealm.com

















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